Lets Trust more and judge less
- People go to self-defeating lengths to elude the possibility of being negatively judged by others.
- They avoid telling people what they want to tell them.
- They don’t speak up in class or at work meetings.
- They avoid telling their lover their true desires.
- They don’t ask for a raise
Here are four ways to stop living in fear of judgment:
1. Nothing lasts forever.
We build up our understanding of people, not on the minor mistakes or setbacks we observe, but by creating a schema based on the big things they do and say, and the patterns of how they interact with us and make us feel over time.
2. Judgment is unavoidable.
Stop trying to control the judgments of others. Instead, try to explain the context of what you are feeling so that those you are opening up to understand you and have compassion for you.
3. Let them judge!
Instead of stopping yourself from being open or vulnerable or from sharing something negative but important about yourself, do it anyway.
4. Notice your own judgments.
There is no better way to care less about the judgments of others than to judge yourself and others less.
4 Reasons We Judge Others
We are insecure. We are scared. We are lonely. We are seeking change.
5 Things Judgments Do
Hurt other people. Make you feel worse about you. Perpetuate stereotypes. Put negativity into the world. Encourage you to judge yourself.
6 Ways To Stop Judging
Monitor your thoughts. Look for the positive. Avoid stereotyping. Stop judging yourself. Focus on your own life. Remember how it feels.
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